Oh this blog entry is SOOOOOOOO important dear reader.
Yes we as musicians and artists, we’re subject to a wildly diverse and delectably colorful palette of emotions.
Face it, we are emotional connoisseurs!
There’s nothing like playing music, especially live and with others in front of an audience. For some of us more introverted types we like playing by ourselves or get our zen laying down tracks in the studio.
In this respect we’re truly emotionally gifted individuals.
But they can’t measure that on an elementary school intelligence test yet can they?
No perhaps they labeled us ADHD (in some cases appropriately so), in other cases were considered overly enthusiastic, incorrigible, or worse, diva-esque or difficult.
Here’s the focus of today’s blogpost.
State control and using your passion for music in such a manner that drives your ability to further your business while still being you.
I’ve had to deal with some very interesting people in my life, some were students, some were musicians in the studio (other than myself, but there are times were I’d like to plead the fifth!), and some were the various assortment of characters that inhabit the industry either in the creative, technical, educational, or business side.
How do we deal with these folks?
How do you deal with a student whose lost his “rocker” or is driving you up the wall?
How do you remain enthusiastic after a LONG day of teaching?
Heck how do you artfully enter the right state of mind to meet any situation, boring, stoic, frustrating, or energy zapping?
Emotional state control to be precise.
“Tony what on earth is state control?”
State control is the ability to control your state mind. I’m not talking about “faking it till you make it.”
I’m talking about actually going into the most resourceful emotional state you can get into to meet the situation that you’re in.
Case in point. Sometimes I’ll in the most BORING (zzzzzzzzZZZzzzz) conversation with someone that I have to have a conversation with.
How do I keep it going, how do I let them feel that I am interested in what they have to say even though I’m sleepy tired, etc, etc?
State control. Emotional state control to be precise.
“Tony how do you do that? How do you control your emotional state of mind.”
Ahhhhh. Glad you asked. This is so wonderfully simple and easy to do. And once you learn it you’ll notice that you’ll be able to respond to people much much better.
Here’s how it’s done.
Think about the state of mind you want to be in. Then think about a time, I mean really really think about a time where you in that state of mind you wanted to be in.
I mean really remember. Think vividly and in detail what you saw, felt, and heard. Adopt the physiology that you were in. (i.e. if you were feeling very confident, you probably walked, tall and straight with your chest out).
And as you enter that state of mind now, let the emotions you were feeling when you were in that state of mind take over. This way from this point on your actions, words, how you speak and how you move are under the influence of that state of mind and the emotions you were in while you were in that state of mind.
Still having trouble?
Clearly remember the emotions you were feeling. Really remember them in detail as to how you felt and where you felt in your body. You’ll probably notice it spins in an area in your body and in a direction and maybe you can assign it a color or physical texture.
Now think of a very pleasurable memory (yes that one) and remember how it felt in your body and emotionally. Now I want to spin that emotion faster in your body and make it bigger, brighter, and stronger. See what happens.
You probably feel a lot better don’t you?
If making it brighter does the opposite of intensifying the emotion, try making less bright.
Wonderful. Isn’t it?
From now on try playing with this so you can enter one state of mind to another.
Now try with entering other states of mind on command.
Remember a time when you were began to feel very giddy. (notice how were probably smiling a lot during this state of mind) and enter that state of mind.
Remember another time when you were feeling mellow.
Now remember a time when would feel jovial and enter that state of mind.
Finally, try going into different states of mind using the recipe I outlined above.
For me practicing this skill came in handy especially after a long day of work and seeing students later in the day. For me it was important to give my clients a great experience. To give it my best.
It was common for me to wake up bright and early before the roosters crowed at 4AM, start my day, and work from 6 all the way up until 10 at night (I had a day job and taught music in the afternoons and evenings).
At the end of the day I would be REALLY TIRED. But sometimes my students wouldn’t even know it.
I could be in a great jovial, effervescent, and spirited mood and provide excellent service and an excellent experience for my students.
To me part of being teacher meant being in a great mood. Why? Since your students look up to you, chances are they’ll follow your lead into a great mood also. It’s simple hypnosis. If you’re the “leader” of the exchange, people will follow you into the state of mind you’re in. (Hint: this works good for dating. Go in to the state of mind you want you were date to go into).
This way if I was in a great mood (which made it a lot more easier to NOT be snappy with students after a long day) my students would be in a great mood.
And to me even if I’m not the best music teacher on the planet, I’m still putting them in a great mood. And at the end of the day, not only do clients and students want a good product or service, they also want to end up feeling great.